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The One Thing You Can Not Afford

Over the past few days I’ve been hearing this repeatedly in my mind, “You can not afford it…you can not afford it!” As I began to ponder on this thought I found myself coming into agreement with it and even saying it aloud. “I can not afford it. I absolutely can not afford it!” I am now totally convinced and there is nothing or no one that can change my mind or persuade me otherwise.

As I transition into this next season I am taking a look back over my life, especially my valley experiences that I am coming out of and my thoughts have been that of much GRATITUDE! It’s easy to sit and recap all the not-so-great moments I’ve had and “get all in my feelings” so to speak. However, I choose to reflect on HOW God protected me, loved on me in one of my darkest hours, continued to provide for me where I NEVER saw lack of no kind! He eased my pain and burdens to allow me to rest IN Him! I appreciate life and understand just how precious it really is. I am truly GRATEFUL beyond what I am able to articulate. Take a few moments and think of one thing (I know that one will be followed by ten more times ten more) that you’re grateful for and speak it into the atmosphere. See, when you look back you’re able to see where and what you’ve journeyed through…it’s looking ahead and TRUSTING God to guide you the rest of the way.

The one thing you absolutely can not afford to do is…GIVE UP!



A Little Message of Hope

As a little girl I had so many dreams of who I wanted to become. I wanted to model after my third grade teacher, Mrs. Floyd. I wanted to sing like Whitney Houston. I fancied after the character of Claire Huxtable to be a great wife, mother, successful, and have a loving family. Truth of the matter is deep down inside I knew I wanted to tell as many people about Jesus as I could. I was always somewhere alone talking to him when I was a little girl. My most fondest memory would be lying outside on the wooden beach my grandparents had, under the shade tree, and I would look up towards heaven and we would TALK! I knew as a child that Jesus was real! I would sing old hymns (because that’s all I heard my grandmother do). Oh, how sweet it is to know Jesus y’all!

Now that I’m an adult, life has taking some turns. There has been great times of testing. There have been victories on every side. YET I made it! There is YET praise in my mouth! If God be for you then who can be against you, right? *Hi5*

Please allow me to share this very true sentiment with YOU…Jesus is your ONLY hope in this life. Jesus loves you so much that He GAVE His life so that you can live! If you feel all hope is gone and you feel like giving up…my prayer is that you will have a God experience that will change your life FOREVER times infinity! You SHALL live and not die! You SHALL rise up again. You SHALL recover and your increase SHALL be plentiful, in Jesus Name! All in the Name of JESUS!


The Cry of a Woman – Being Misunderstood

In my previous blog post I shared some pretty heavy insight about “The Cry of a Woman” that some of us as women may be able to relate to and hopefully that some men can grow to understand or perhaps be sensitive enough to care. When a woman cries from that place in her most inner being it’s not an easy place to just bounce back and jump back on the saddle of life and start galloping away like nothing never happened (although most times it is the case because all choices have been exhausted)! One of the hardest things to conceptualize is “being misunderstood”. People often say they’re not judging you when that may not necessarily be all true. There are a lot of things I said I couldn’t see myself doing (that I saw someone else do and disapproved of) until I was placed in the same or similar situation. Trust me, the story is completely different once on the inside! Deep down you just wished someone understood. What I have grown to understand through my own personal experiences is that everybody can’t handle “your” truth because it comes with a hefty price of “being misunderstood”.

Allow me to share one of the greatest misunderstandings that have always been placed over my head like a mistletoe with flashing lights: “You don’t have any children so you don’t have to…” Yes! I felt like I was under the gun because of not having a child so I often felt ridiculed for it. My heart would sadden and there would be a cry deep down inside because if only they knew my heart’s desire was to one day be a mother and share in the joy I’m often reminded of when it comes to children.

In this life we understand there is joy and pain that we experience in different seasons of our time here on earth. As a woman, when I cry I realize that I not only cry for myself but for the little girl inside that was exposed to things that shouldn’t have been seen through the eyes of a child. I also cry for the woman who fears that if she sheds one more tear that it would send her over the edge and she’s holding on to the last strand of hope. I cry for the one who’s story hasn’t been told yet everyone “else” can tell you all about her. If we but truly understood God’s grace that covers us because if all that we have done was exposed for all to see…who would cry for you and who would cry for me?

Ponder that…stay tuned!


Pearls of Wisdom ~ Stand Guard

I am reminded of the scripture that says, “Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life” (Proverbs 4:23 NLT). When I sit still and think back on some of the choices I’ve made, with all of its best intentions, when it comes to the matter of “love” it has not always turned out favorable. That does not in no way cast blame on the other person because after all, each person is responsible for their own actions. The Bible, particularly in the Book of Proverbs, shares a lot about the wise and the foolish person. “Wise people think before they act; fools don’t—and even brag about their foolishness” (Proverbs 13:16 NLT). Trust me, I have found some of my own identifiers when it comes to being foolish. When you don’t choose to exercise wisdom or seek after it, your plans and everything in it will turn to folly. Ask me how I know!

I’m sure many of you reading this blog have experienced your heart being broken or disappointed and it feels like the healing will never take place. Your thought process is on repeat as to the turn of events and are in full 3-D in your mind and on surround sound. Many emotions are flooding ranging from embarrassment, hurt, guilt, shock, confusion, blame, anger, frustration, doubt, disappointment, betrayal, lack of peace, sadness, etc. The list can go on and on. I just wanted to plug in that you’re not alone and this too shall pass. “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds [curing their pains and their sorrows]” (Psalm 147:3 AMP).

*NUGGETS** – To the single ladies (this includes those dating too):
•Develop your own personal mission statement when it comes to relationships or dating. Find balance. For instance, every man that breezes into your life is not possibly “the one”. Yes, when you meet someone new it is always a breath of “fresh air” blowing your way in comparison to your last dating experience. How many times have you heard or even said that yourself? I’m not saying anything is wrong with it just put EVERYTHING into perspective.
•If your preference is to not be in the company of a man who drinks, smokes, and/or uses profanity, why make exceptions to your own “rules”? Why is THIS time ok? It doesn’t mean you’re being judgmental, it’s your preference.
•Don’t apologize for being who you are. Your personality is what makes you unique when you’re exercising good morals and obedience to God in regards to your personal relationship with Christ and overall being genuinely nice person. Don’t allow your meekness to be interpreted as weakness. When weakness is displayed, it’s like a silent alarm!

Take these small token of wisdom pearls and stand “guard” around your heart…Stay tuned!

Pearls of Wisdom…Life’s Lessons I’ve Learned

Today has been a very reflective day for me. Sometimes I am in awe when I think about how much grace God has shown to…me. When I think back to the times where I went my own way, thought I had it all figured out, when I made things feel right knowing that it was all wrong. Trust me; you KNOW when you’re either out of the will of God or preparing to cross the line. There have been times where I have sat before God and said, “I don’t understand why this is happening!” The toughest thing has been to ask God to show me where my error lies. It gave me the opportunity to acknowledge my faults/sins, learn from it, and teach others that are seemingly headed in the same direction I just came out of and as someone warned or advised me…chances are that person won’t listen because their heart and head are reversed just as mine was…I totally understand! Then there are a few far and in between that will take those pearls of wisdom and actually trust God to show them and exhale later when the truth of the matter comes to surface.

Young ladies, to those that are hopeful for promising relationships and praying for God to send “Mr. Right” – please let me share a few nuggets with you that may help save you from a lot of disappointment and a long teary night. Your heart is one of the most fragile attachments to your emotional state. It’s the core of who you are and where you find that you will weigh a lot of your decisions…trusting your feelings or your gut. Listen, that’s fine when you trust God more than you are yourself. Proverbs 3:5-6 says, “Trust in the LORD with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take” (NLT). Sometimes I stand back and ask God, “Who am I to share any words of wisdom when all else around me has fallen apart?” Then God reminds me of His grace and when I remember what I’ve had to go through to gain wisdom to share as my heart breaks for those that find themselves entangled in grief and despair…can’t see past the pain because it is suffocating their lives. I’m here to tell you God is MUCH closer than you think!

Here are just a few pearls you may want to gather for your necklace… “What you learn from them will crown you with grace and be a chain of honor around your neck” Proverbs 1:9 (NLT) and “Tune your ears to wisdom, and concentrate on understanding” Proverbs 2:2 (NLT).

Ø Take inventory on where you are in life. Do you have the time to invest in a relationship? Are you where you want to be in life? Are you pursuing your goals and ambitions? Have you sought after God for what your purpose is in life? Not having a clear vision or goal on what you want to do will certainly not become a priority when you start a new relationship.
Ø Think back on previous relationships that did not work out and challenge yourself as to the things you would do differently. Do you find that there is a pattern to the type of men that you meet? For instance, you meet men that are full of potential yet not doing anything about it. As you get to know him, how does his job/work history pan out? How consistent is he with following through commitments?
Ø You meet a gentleman and you’re overwhelmed with physical attraction that it overcompensates for the things you know you told yourself you wouldn’t put up with and yet you give in. If you want to see his level of commitment to you, KEEP YOUR LEGS CLOSED and just…watch. *NOT all men fit the profile of being a skirt chaser. There are some God-fearing men that really want to do it God’s way and they struggle with the same thing that you struggle with too.*
Ø Talk less and LISTEN more and the things that make you go, “hmm…” or perhaps you put a “mental check” note on something…LISTEN! Maya Angelou said it best, “The first time someone shows you who they are, believe them.”
Ø I cannot stress enough how many times we hear “take it slow” and instead run full steam ahead…heading nowhere fast! SLOW DOWN! Like seriously, if he’s such a great catch, your opened legs will not keep him any longer than he wants to stay.

I know you’ve heard this a hundred times over…well, here’s one more time and if the shoe fits…girl, put it on and walk out your integrity! “Wise choices will watch over you. Understanding will keep you safe. Wisdom will save you from evil people, from whose words are twisted” Proverbs 2: 11-12 (NLT).

Stay tuned…I’m just getting warmed up!!!

You Were Not Built to Break!

Sis, you are much stronger than you think! Yes, I know, it’s easier said than to believe. You may be bent but you’re not broken! You may feel like you’ve been left to fend for yourself with no one to come to your rescue. See, I’ve been where you are right now. I know the dull ache in the pit of your core that won’t go away. Trust me, I know the the feeling of the tears flooding your eyes without an invitation like an unwanted guest. Your thoughts seem to engulf you like a Tsunami and there is nowhere to run for cover.

I remember the brokenness and wondering, “Am I ever going to get past this?” I remember the nights where I cried out to the LORD asking, “Where are you?! Why aren’t you fighting for me?!” I would cry until my eye sockets were swollen and my voice barely a murmur and then drift off to sleep just to awaken the next morning and start the process all over again. See, our stories are not that different…it’s just the chosen paths we took.

The good news is that this is not your final stop! No ma’am! You will not stay in this place. One day I made a life altering choice to BELIEVE God for healing and restoration! I couldn’t fight on my own anymore. My strength was totally depleted. I was right where God wanted me to be and if you’ve arrived at this place–CONGRATULATIONS! This is where you shift total dependence over to God!

He’s waiting for you. He will never leave you. God hears your prayers and bottles up your tears. When you can’t pray, Jesus is constantly pleading on your behalf! Sis, you are not in the fight alone. I need you to survive! Take a deep breath and say, “I AM A VESSEL FULL OF POWER!” You might not think so right now but…WATCH GOD do it!!

“Hear my cry for mercy as I call to you for help, as I lift up my hands toward your Most Holy Place.” (Psalm 28:2 NIV)

v.6) “Praise be to the Lord,
for he has heard my cry for mercy.”
v.7) The Lord is my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in him, and he helps me. My heart leaps for joy,
and with my song I praise him.” (Psalm 28:6, 7 NIV)

“Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us,” (Ephesians 3:20 NIV)

“But you, Lord, are a shield around me,
my glory, the One who lifts my head high.” (Psalm 3:3 NIV)

This blog is dedicated to the vessels that God took His time in creating. Every ounce of love, strength, boldness, creativity, beauty and so much more — God inundated us with the ability to withstand and to endure. Some of you have been so battered and torn down by situations, circumstances, and poor decisions that reaped coals of distress that you go into “auto-pilot” mode. I know this all too well because I have been where you’ve been and I’m not too far away from it now. The Word of the LORD declares, “But you, Lord, are a shield around me, my glory, the One who lifts my head high” (Psalm 3:3 NIV). What an amazing declaration of faith, especially when it seems that instead of things getting better, it’s getting worse.

I know what it’s like to have tear-stained pillows, swollen eyes from the pressure of crying so hard that your soul cries along with you. The hollow feeling in the pit of your stomach that is filled with so much distress that you wonder, how am I going to make it past…this moment? Imagine what King David was feeling when he said, “I am worn out from my groaning. All night long I flood my bed with weeping and drench my couch with tears” (Psalm 6:6 NIV).

Daughters of God, my kindred sisters, as I encourage myself…I extend it to you as well. YOU are a VESSEL FULL OF POWER! (Say it to yourself! Then repeat it again only this time louder and more confidant and with total belief!) I KNOW it’s not easy. I know doubt and fear try to creep in but the awesome power of sound! To use the instruments of our voices to make a declaration of power because of who we are and whose we are! Today, I believe it and I need you to believe with me!