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The Prologue – Everybody Has a Story

Oftentimes there is so much I would like to share but I then remember that everything that wants to be said doesn’t need to be said…at least not right now. Not everybody will understand where you’re coming from and will likely draw their own conclusions. But that’s to be expected, right? We don’t all share the same experiences. How one would choose to handle a situation they have never encountered is totally different from the individual that is actually in the situation chooses to handle it. One is speculative and the other is relative.

The majority of the blogs I have written were while I was in the midst of one of the most disappointing times in my life. I couldn’t understand how I was able to write from a place of pain that was a place of healing for someone else. I could not understand how God was going to cause all these ingredients of disappointment, heartbreak, heartache, rejection, loneliness, despair, hopelessness, resentment, bitterness, self-righteousness, turmoil, shame, lack of wisdom, disobedience, helplessness, selfishness, desperation, unloving, blame, victimization, and pain…ALL work together for the good! That’s why He’s God and I’m not! Most people say, “I just want to be happy!” I feel you! As you may know by now, happiness is the result of something happening that charges your emotions and you wish the moment would last forever. Again, I feel you! One day I had an “Ah Ha!” moment and I said out loud “I want to live a fulfilling life!” Simply meaning, no matter what is going on in my life it is fulfilled because 1) my hope is in Jesus, 2) this too shall pass, 3) live in the moment, 4) take nothing for granted but be GRATEFUL for it all, and 5) forgive offenses quickly and let go. Does that sound too unrealistic? Easier said than done? Do I think this way every single day? Certainly not, but moments like this gently reminds me that I am not in control. Release…

Some of you will be able to relate while others may find it surprising, obnoxious, or cumbersome but that’s the beauty of each of us having our OWN life’s story! I sometimes still deal with the afterthoughts of “What will people think?” “What will people say?” “How accepting would people be?” People…people…people…will be…people! You will always have “the Naysayers, the Oooh-Childs, and the Ummm…umm…ummm…No she didn’t!” that really are your cheerleaders! They’re the ones that will help share your story! So don’t count it all a lost!

God still has the final say in my life’s story…after all, He’s the Author and Finisher of my faith. You, too, have a “Pit to Palace” story and if you don’t (as my granddad used to say) “keep living”! I’m a bit hard on myself at times because I think about precious time I’ve wasted and the grand mantra of, “If I knew then what I know now…!” I dare not compare my story to others because I may not have survived what most have gone through but I respect it! I can minister to the married because I’ve been there. I can minister to the divorced because I’ve been there. I can minister to the forgotten, left behind, disregarded, heartbroken, rejected, taken for granted, misused, abused, neglected, and broken because I’ve been there. I can minister to the hopeful, the survivor, the fighter because I’ve been there. I can minister to the dream chaser, the intercessor, the faithful, the faithless, the undeserving, the one that stands alone because I’ve been there. I can minister to the poor decision maker, the flesh, the wise and unwise, the one who’s afraid, the sinner and the saint, the backslider, the joyful, the humble, the proud…because I’ve been there. I can minister to the homeless, the unvalued, the hungry, the one who has plenty and the one who doesn’t have enough because I’ve been there.

Although I’m able to encourage you from all those places and then some it’s because I need you to know you’re not alone! I don’t have all the answers or solutions but I know One who does and can heal you just by the bare mention of His Name, Jesus! Being able to minister to you from my story is not about me but an opportunity to share Jesus Christ. Not to preach at you or to you but to SHARE His Light in your dark place. I make no apologies and totally unashamed but drenched in humility…image


The Power of Transition – Discover the Shift

Purpose brings about transition and transition brings about change. It is impossible to execute your purpose without action. The dictionary defines transition as: “movement, passage, or change from one position, state, stage, subject, concept to another…” All-in-all, CHANGE is the most misconstrued, misdiagnosed, mis-conceptualized, overlooked symptom of transition. Oftentimes one of the most stifling things we can ever do is MISS the season of transition!

How many of us have held on to jobs, relationships/friendships, living situations, and things knowing that it has not been healthy for you for a very long time? Even through my own personal experiences, (because of disobedience!!) not knowing when the “shift” had occurred in my life led me to make unwise decisions, my integrity as a woman and child of God was compromised, and it filtered into every area of my life and affected my prayer life, my relationship with Jesus, and I became distant from those who loved me most (THANK GOD for those who didn’t give up on me!”) I became frustrated, bitter, and grumbled and complained more than I praised and prayed. I couldn’t function in small areas and life became very uncomfortable. Transition will take you out of your comfort zone! **WISDOM ALERT!**

One of the ways to acknowledge that a shift is taking flight in your life is to get in a quiet place. FIND it! Quiet yourself down. Yes, you may be overwhelmed. You may have to cry it out. You may be frustrated but command your atmosphere. Here’s a simple prayer: “LORD Jesus, I need you. I need your help! In Jesus Name!” He hears the smallest of prayers. God will speak in the least to the greatest of ways. Now for those of you that are use to being in control (or so you think!) ask God to send someone in your life that can assist you with prioritizing your life and discovering those pain points that need to be addressed. Be expedient. More importantly be OBEDIENT! **WISDOM ALERT**

If things seem to be falling apart at the seams, pay attention to details, distractions, and disruptions…find the shift!! Think back 3-6 months ago and see where you were at that time and where you are now. Ask Jesus to reveal to you words and deeds that you have come into agreement with that does not line up with His will for your life. While the transition may be painful, it may give the illusion that you’re moving backwards, and it may not make sense…mediate of this: “For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord . “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. (Jeremiah 29:11 NLT)

Stay tuned for the next blog “Power of Transition – Relationships!” This is always a HOT TOPIC so let’s journey through it together! If you have a question you would like to propose, please email i.motivatesolutions@gmail. Also, click the follow button to stay up-to-date, as well as my Blog Talk Radio Show, “The NeXt Level with Ms. Gina!” http://www.blogtalkradio.com/the-nxt-level. Twitter.com/TheRealMsGina Facebook.com/NXTLVel

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Letting Go…The Process (Part 1)

Many times you may have heard the cliché “Let go…and let God!” It’s usually at a time when there is great frustration, disappointment, a trial, discouragement, heartbreak/ache, and etc. What does “let go and let God” really mean? What does it look like? If there is a special formula to it, then why don’t many of us practice it? I mean like REALLY, REALLY practice it — before things become too overwhelming and out-of-control — before we do ALL that we can do — before we reach the point of exhaustion? Do we really walk victoriously as we proclaim during the walk in the wilderness? Do we really trust God’s word that He will fight our battles? Do we believe wholeheartedly that He will never leave us nor forsake us?

Through the many hardships that I have had to endure in this life of mine as I’m sure we all have and if you haven’t (as my grandfather would say, “keep living”). Most of us hang on to things that should have been let go a long, long time ago (*raised hand). Let me be the first to say “IT IS NOT AS EASY AS YOU THINK!” Some people hold on to anger, hurt, disappointing events that took place in our childhood, as a teenager, or as an adult that was very traumatic. It is definitely a process. Some things have been so suppressed in memory that it has been mistaken as forgotten or it has been “let go”. IF what you are going through or have already experienced hasn’t been sealed in forgiveness, prayer, and the truth of God’s word…I am sorry to be the bearer of bad news — IT WILL RESURFACE! God is the only one that can enable us to be able to “let go” — it’s a matter of the heart and He is our great Physician — our Healer. Let’s be candid – I’m talking about the deep, down, dirty things that are swept under the rug, such as abandonment, sexual offenses such as molestation and rape, infidelity, lies, abuse from your spouse or significant other. The list goes on and on…

There will come a time that in our lives that we MUST move on…but it IS a process. A process that I am still learning to put into practice in my own life. Sometimes I get stuck…it depresses, suppresses, and oppresses and you can NOT move forward in the things you should be doing so there is a method to the madness!

  • Prayer – “Give all your worries and cares to God, for He cares about you.” (1 Peter 5:7 NLT) Find a quiet place and for a few minutes just share with God what has been hurting you. Tell Him EVERYTHING–no matter what it is–He will listen! “But in my distress I cried out to the Lord; yes, I cried to my God for help. He heard me from His sanctuary; my cry reached his ears.” (2 Samuel 22:7 NLT)
  • Confide in Someone – Don’t keep it all bottled up inside–talk to someone who will LISTEN and share solid, Godly counsel with you. “The heartfelt counsel of a friend is as sweet as perfume and incense.” (Prov. 27:9 NLT).
  • Journal – Write out your feelings is another way to express how you feel. Pouring your thoughts out on paper will definitely free up clutter from your mind. Be as transparent as you care to be. This is YOUR platform!

Wait! I guess you’re wondering…what about forgiveness? As Believers, we know that it is not an option. Forgiveness is a heart issue and a process within itself..Stay tuned for “Letting Go…The Process” Part 2 Forgiveness.