In my previous blog I shared “Forgiving Quickly” and that forgiveness is a matter of the heart. I know how hard it is to try to overcome when you have been disappointed, let down, and hurt and the revolving question that circulates in your head is, “Why?!” One thing I have learned is that you will no more get the answer to ease the pain than the individual has an answer to suffice their actions. I have been on that side of the fence myself. Just think back to when you were a child and your mom asked you, “Why did you do that?!” You looked up with tear-filled eyes and gave the infamous two-year old answer, “I don’t know.” Oftentimes that unanswered question renders emotions and sometimes you may be left feeling like it is your fault and there the emotional entanglement begins. So, what do you do??
You must find that pivotal point in your life…that LIGHT at the end of the tunnel where you reach wayyyy deep down inside and decide that you have a LIFE to live and let it go! Holding on to emotional pain and hurt is like trying to breathe underwater without oxygen – you will drown! I know it is hard to let go especially when it is someone near and dear to you…whether it be a dear friend, spouse, family member, or your child – you must release and let it go! If I may be a bit transparent, when I was experiencing heart pain and emotional entanglement I had no idea how to just “let go” because I was busy trying to figure out why and what happened? Things would play over and over and over in my mind because I wanted to know how, where, when, what, and WHY? I follow a young lady on Twitter that tweet some amazing nuggets that I would like to share with you. Please visit her website to read her blogs and you will be blessed! www.brittneymoses.com and @Brittney_Moses on Twitter.
- “I don’t forgive people because I’m weak. Its cause I’m strong enough to know people make mistakes.”
- “Unforgiveness is a testament to pride but to forgive is a testament to your ability to love beyond yourself.”
- “Remember: Forgiveness is unlocking the door to set someone free and realizing you were the prisoner!”
- “Forgiving someone does not mean allowing bad behavior to continue, it means not letting their bad behavior affect your life anymore.”
These are just a few nuggets from Brittney that confirmed for me that I was on the right track and now able to share with so many of you. This has been an ongoing struggle for me from past situations and past relationships that affected me in one way or another. One of the biggest struggles was the rejection of not having my father in my life. It was not until well after his death and failed relationships that I was able to ask God to take me to whatever the root of the problem so I can deal with it and MOVE ON! We’ll continue this in the next blog…stay tuned!